unic0rns_are

"Everyone knows that with high expectations comes the frightening chance of being let down. But when you are involuntarily making those high expectations about whatever you may be wanting, you don’t think to yourself “I bet you if I make such high expectations of people/this situation, blahblahblah, I am going to be let down!” That’s just not something you think to yourself when your mind is pre-occupied with other things. High expectations almost always end in disappointment, but it seems as though it’s unavoidable. I guess the remedy is to just not let yourself get involved in situations, or in people’s lives too much? I wouldn’t really know since I more often than not, end up in the state of being “let down”. Something I’ve found to help is just realizing that the other person or people in the given situation don’t realize you made these expectations beforehand. Sometimes, you don’t even realize you made these expectations. It’s hard to overcome something like this, because expectations are a part of life. You expect a lot of things, but sometimes what you expect is not exactly in your hands, even if you want it to be. It’s hard to make people act or do things a certain way, even if you talk to them about it. In the end, I’m not necessarily saying to set your expectations low, or not have expectations at all, I’m just saying that if you do, realize that you probably won’t realize beforehand that things could end up differently than you expected. There are ways to cope with it, but the most important is to not worry too much, & realize that sometimes in these situations of over-expecting, you can’t control much of anything"

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